*This post was written by a contributor*
If
you’ve recently got
engaged, your mind will naturally have started to plan the wedding
already.
It’s
at this point that many brides-to-be find themselves pausing. Of
course, they’re excited about marrying
the love of their life, but weddings don’t actually
have
the best reputation. We’ve all heard stories about the many
difficulties couples face when it comes to their wedding, so it’s
natural to feel a little concerned.
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However,
planning a wedding
should be as much of a joy as the marriage itself. So, we’ve looked
into
the three
major worries
brides-to-be
will
experience,
and
we’ll try to reassure
you a
little…
1)
The potential for drama!
Over
the years, countless
TV shows have
depicted
weddings as a major source of drama
– whether
it’s reality shows where guests have a meltdown, or sitcoms where a
wedding day brings
another
major storyline into
the mix;
the trend has
been done.
However, reality TV shows are usually staged, and fictionalized TV
shows like to
use weddings
because they provide an opportunity to bring multiple characters
together, not because weddings are somehow inherently dramatic. The
vast majority of real
weddings
pass with nothing but happiness and shared joy with friends and
family coming together to celebrate the occasion, so try not to worry
too much about this particular
issue!
2)
The cost of the day!
Weddings
have a reputation for being extremely expensive, which will
obviously worry couples.
However, while the big budget weddings may capture the headlines, the
simple truth is that there’s no need to spend more than you feel
comfortable with; you can look for wedding
dresses that won't break the bank,
choose a smaller venue and guest list, skip the pricier
entertainment
options, make
your
own decorations and you’ll
still
be
able to create an absolute dream of a day. Really,
societal
pressure is
responsible
for the idea that weddings must be big and elaborate. You
and
your partner should
just ignore this and go
with whatever makes you both happy,
because
that’s
what
really
matters.
3)
Guest list upsets!
Visit
any wedding forum and it won’t be long before you find a thread
about guest list upsets. It might be that a relative has not been
invited and is now kicking
up a fuss; there may be
complaints from guests who cannot attend a destination
wedding,
or guests
taking
issue
with the fact the couple have chosen a “child free” wedding
– the
list is almost endless, and is enough to make any couple worry about
how their own friends and family will react to their own choices.
However, most of these issues can be avoided with effective
communication. Reach out to everyone on your guest list before you
send invites, explaining why you have chosen to do things in a
certain way (for example, you’ve cut
down the
guest list
to keep costs low)
and asking for their understanding. If everything is explained
upfront, there’s no room for potential misinterpretations or
upsets, and any potential issues can be ironed out before they become
problematic.
Now
that the above worries
are
hopefully eased for you,
planning your wedding
should be a truly wonderful
experience.
Have a magical day!
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